Do you feel love is dissipated from your marriage? Or that your spouse does not deserve your love because he or she is not worthy to be valued?
However If you want to experience Love, Joy and peace in your marriage as God’s will is for you then you will have to make a quality decision to value one another.
It really doesn’t matter who your spouse is. Yes making the changes may be hard and difficult because habits are easily formed but extremely difficult to get rid of, but you will be glad you did. Someone once said we have the right to make our choices in life; however we don’t choose the consequences that follow.
Saul’s attempt on David’s life gives a vivid illustration of how to value and love those you will like to hate or does not deserve to be valued or loved. For David’s attitude God rewarded him with victory and honour.
Making the decision to love the undesirable hurts and extremely difficult because of human nature that gravitate to respond to affection and love. However you have God on your side that will not only protect you but will watch out for all of your interests.
I Peter 3:13 who is going to harm you if you are eager to do good?
All attempt on David’s life by Saul failed, however David had a wonderful opportunity to not only hurt Saul but to kill him. He did not take the opportunity because he decided to spear him.
I Sam 24:10 This day you have seen with your own eyes how the LORD delivered you into my hands in the cave. Some urged me to kill you, but I spared you; I said, 'I will not lift my hand against my master, because he is the LORD's anointed.'
When you make the decision to love it may look and feel stupid but in reality you are putting God on you case to fight the battle for you, look at Saul’s response when he realised that he was spared by David.
I Sam 24: 16-20......Saul asked, "Is that your voice, David my son?" And he wept aloud. "You are more righteous than I," he said. "You have treated me well, but I have treated you badly. You have just now told me of the good you did to me; the LORD delivered me into your hands, but you did not kill me. When a man finds his enemy, does he let him get away unharmed? May the LORD reward you well for the way you treated me today. I know that you will surely be king and that the kingdom of Israel will be established in your hands.
The Cliff-hanger in this is not about the ease of the decision it is about trusting God that He is able to do what he says he will do. Can you entrust your relationship entirely in His hands? To do this you have to..........................
i. Recognise the hand of God over your life and your spouse’s life. Do you realise that David called and referred to this man with murderous tendencies as the anointed of the Lord and my master? Indicating that despite his evil behaviours he was still submissive to his authority over him.
ii. Forgive and let go of every hurt and disappointment of the past.
iii. Recognise that your spouse is not the source of your joy; this is not suggesting that you should not enjoy each others company. In fact, i would challenge you to take interest in each others business like never before.
TRUE SOURCE OF JOY
· PS 16:11 Thou will show me the path of life in thy presence is fullness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.
· Isa 26:3 You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.
Finally
Apostle Paul gave us a indication of how to foster great relations in Col 3:12 -14
Therefore, as God's (elect) chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
This is part of a 4 week teaching series on marriage by Bunmi Omidiran – Senior Pastor The Father’s House, KTLCC network of Churches (an Elim/Foursquare denominational church) Odeon North Greenwich, Bugsby Way. London
All scripture except other wise stated is taking from the NIV Translation.
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