Missing Link From Enjoying God’s Best In Marriage

Contrary to most people's opinion that MONEY is the greatest issue in marriage, the lack of it or the abundance of it. If this notion were to be true separation or divorce should be limited only to the poor or the rich. However statistically there is no reflection that the real issues that leads to divorce or separation is money.

In most of the cases it is irreconcilable differences. As with any issues in life it is quite normal and easy to look and dwell on the surface or obvious, the root issue in most marriages which that is commonly ignored is
HONOR.

WHAT IS HONOR?

The Greek liken honour to Gold, because it is valuable, weighty and heavy on the other hand dishonour is liken to steam, because it is worthless and nobody pays any particular attention to it.

The English diction defines honour as something or somebody held in high esteem, or to show a courteous regard for somebody.

In other words whoever we honour we will VALUE and GIVE ATTENTION or PRIORITY

Jesus expressed how we should to relate with God and one another in Matt 22:36-40.

Apostle Peter expressed in 1 Pet 3:6-14 that honour is a joint responsibility between husband and wife, contrary to most people opinions and beliefs.

EXAMPLE OF TEN ACTS OF DISHONOR TO OUR SPOUSE

1. Ignore or disregard another person's opinions or advice or beliefs.
   
2. Burying oneself in TV/Newspaper when the person is trying to communicate
   
3. Creating jokes about the other person weak area or shortcomings
   
4. Making regular verbal attacks on loved ones, harshly judgmental or delivery un canning lectures.
   
5. Treating in laws or other relations as unimportant in ones planning and communication
   
6. Ignoring or simply nor expressing appreciation for kind deeds done for us
   
7. Distasteful habits that are practiced in front of the family – even after we have been asked to stop.
   
8. Over committing ourselves to other peoples project or outside the home seems more important than those inside the home.
   
9. Power struggles that leave one person feeling that he/she is a child or is being harshly dominated.
   
10. An unwillingness to admit that we are weak or ask for forgiveness.
    

    {Ref: Love Is A Decision: Gary Smalley & etal}
    

    
    

    If you can identify with this, you may have been dishonouring your spouse and consequently God, which you need to ask for His forgiveness… to be continued…………………